Dear Hillary,
I have the answer to the man (Matchmaker) who has some “good” Thai ladies looking for husbands. So nice to hear that you are happy with your Thai girl. I have been with my wife for more than 20 years. I have never looked back. My advice regarding your Thai friends looking for a Farang, I would have to say that the chances of these girls finding a “normal Farang man” are very slim. I hear many times a Farang would ask, “are there good Thai girls out there?” I have been here long enough to know that there are many good, girls out there; however, 80 percent of Farang men I have met over the years, well, put it this way - I would not take them home to meet my mother. My eldest daughter is 23 years old this month, she will be starting her masters in July. I hope to god that she will find a good Thai man. The last thing I want is for her to be with a Farang but at the end of the day it is her choice. Your girl’s friends, they look at you, just a normal guy with a savings account and they see that you and your girl are happy and that you take good care of her. And they want some of that too. My advice to you is to drop the matchmaking, you may be able to find a find a Farang for these girls but if and when it goes wrong, guess who will be in a world of pain? So be happy, love your girlfriend but drop the matchmaking.
Thai Mark

Dear Thai Mark,
You have hit the right mark with your reply to Matchmaker. With things as changeable as human emotions, it is best to stay away. Let these women find their own Farang husbands.

Dear Hillary,
I asked a school teacher from Chiang Mai for a date. She wanted to bring some other ladies for security. I said I am too old for protection, but she can bring as many ladies as she likes. Then she drives 12 hours to Pattaya to see me again. Take it easy with the ladies and make fun and you will take their heart.
Vern

Dear Vern,
Aren’t you the lucky one? Drives from Chiang Mai to Pattaya to see you again. What is your secret attraction? I once had a suitor who drove all the way from South Pattaya to Jomtien, but then claimed he had to rush off, but did give me 20 baht for the baht bus home. Keep plugging away, my Petal. You’ve got the game sewn up it would seem.

Dear Hillary,
One of your correspondents (Sad Old Walker) was complaining at the price of everything here, including girls for fun. This could be me talking... as well as walking; I echo Sad Old Walker’s’ sentiments entirely. He sounds as though, like me, that he’d be better off in his own country and only visiting Thailand periodically; and avoid getting involved in bar girl culture in any way at all. It’s up (or down) to the girls to get clued up about their own self worth; though 2,000 baht a night is 100 percent more than I ever paid for female company a few years ago. Maybe, unlike me due to a severe visual disability, Sad Old Walker could get hold of a push bike and become upwardly mobile?
SOW2

Dear SOW2,
As I replied before on this topic, what is this 2000 baht a night nonsense? And this is tied up with self worth you say? What are they selling? Accommodation at 5 star hotels? Or raffle tickets? Or sponsorship of chamber of commerce evenings? I am sorry to read about your severe visual disability, perhaps this is why you are having trouble with 2000 baht. Is it recognizing the big notes from 100 baht ones? All very confusing. Perhaps you could train the seeing eye dog to sniff out the 1000 baht ones?

Dear Hillary,
When you meet someone and you know they are the right person for you, it doesn’t matter whether they work in a bar or work in a university. That’s it, they are the one. You are in love. You go on a lot about finding good Thai women, but they are really all the same, so don’t keep on about it. If the girl comes from a bar, just enjoy and ignore the advice from silly old people like Hillary.
James

Dear James,
What a silly mixed up young boy you are. You are not describing “love” to me, Petal, you are describing infatuation. You are ignoring the fact that girls who work in the bars are in it for the money. Nobody forces them to work there. Undoubtedly a young inexperienced male like you will fall “in love” with a lady from the bar. It has been said many times, and this is not a Hillary original, but you can take a girl out of the bar, but you can’t take the bar out of the girl.