Dear Hillary,
I am a single American male who has lived in Pattaya for 8 years.. I’ve had a few relationships but now I am madly in love with a beautiful woman. The problem is she has a relationship with 2 children.
Last month I invited she and her family to a party. Her husband did not come as their youngest child was ill and he had to work the next day..
This woman stayed after everyone had gone. She gave me the impression that she wanted to have a relationship with me. . Even though I am love with her, I resisted because I had a bad feeling about it . I explained my feelings to her and she left my house.
After she left, and even now, I regret I did not follow my feelings. What should I do?
In love.
Dear in love,
I believe you acted correctly.
If you cannot handle unpredictable circumstances, better look for someone who has no family obligations and is free.
Maybe this woman is your ideal, but she is taken. Don’t get your hopes wrapped up in illusions - You deserve better than spending all public holidays and vacations alone, crying while your loved one is probably having a ball with someone else. Listen to your head, not to your heart unless, of course, the person is going through divorce proceeding.
Be careful: There is the possibility to end up as the object of a short term romance, as a lover for a few months (or even a few years). Is this what you want? You deserve someone who’s mind and head is 100% free for you.
You are looking for a honest, loving relationship, and that means, not getting involved with someone else’s love partner. You cannot change people’s behaviour patterns..
Don’t put yourself through the pain of trying.
Dear Hillary,
After very hard work in Europe, I came to stay for a few months with my parents in Thailand. Recently I went to a business party. We came a little bit later than the other guests and I met this handsome, single man. We were chatting for about ten minutes and unfortunately, he had to leave. He gave me his business card and wrote his home number on it. He told me that he would like me to call at my convenience. Now I am not sure if I dare to do so. After all, I talked to him only for a few minutes. Do you think I could try?
Afraid of calling.
Dear Afraid,
This man is single. This man is handsome. This considerate man is a rare jewel. There is no time to play hard to get. Call him.