Dear Hillary,
When my husband died last year, I, at 54, almost went through a nervous break-down. My husband was American, I am Thai, and the people who helped me through this time were my neighbors, also an American and his Thai wife.
A few months after my husband passed away, the wife of my neighbor died in a car accident. Since we both went through the trauma of losing someone very close, we kind of grabbed hold of each other. For the past four months we have more or less lived together. I know he likes me a lot, or even loves me, but I cannot convince him to marry me. I believe it would be the right solution, since we could be together most of the time and I believe time is a very important factor in our age group.
He believes the time is not right yet, and that its much too early to commit himself again. I understand him to a certain point. Of course, its not a heavy-storming love affair anymore, but we do understand and respect each other. That’s all that counts at our age. How, I ask you, can I bring him to marry me?
Widow
Dear Widow,
Why do you want to hurry things? If your boyfriend thinks its too early to re-marry, or even if he doesn’t want to get married again at all, its his decision to make. You must try to respect his wishes. It seems as though you would like to get re-married for sensible reasons. Your boyfriend might not be able, in his time of grief, to see those reasons yet.
You have to be very patient with him. If you keep pushing him, you might endanger your beautiful relationship. Maybe later he will find out that marrying you would be the best for him. Right now, the most important thing for both of you is the feeling of having someone you can trust, and not to be lonesome. Time, even though very precious, will show what is best for both of you.

Dear Hillary,
I’ve tried everything. Expensive cures, in-expensive potions, pills, teas, and what nots. I’m still losing my hair. You might say that, as a man, I shouldn’t worry too much about my looks - but I do. Maybe you can help me. Maybe there is a cure which I haven’t heard of yet?
Almost Bald
Dear Almost Bald,
I would never tell a man he shouldn’t worry about his looks. On the contrary, I am happy if men take care of themselves.
I don’t know too much about the kind of cures you are looking for, but I asked around and may have found something you might want to try. Its an old Mexican recipe.
Mix 1/3 castor oil, 1/3 black tea (allow to steep for at least 25 minutes), and 1/3 Jamaican rum. Put this mixture on your scalp and wrap a bath towel around it. Leave it on for two hours and wash you hair with, preferably, propolis-shampoo (bee-bread). Rinse with camomile tea.
Mexicans are known for their beautiful, full hair. Maybe it will help you, too.
On the other hand, Sean Connery looks very sexy...