Dear Hillary,
Many times I feel so tired after a hard days work, I just cannot think of having sex with my husband. If I force myself to do it, I’ll hope it is over soon. I love my husband and nothing is wrong in our relationship. I just have the feeling my body is low on passion power.
I am not old yet, only 36, and sometimes I have the feeling I’m missing out on something and making my husband miss it too.
No Mood.
Dear No Mood,
There are times when no matter how much you love sex, no matter how much you love your man, you just don’t feel, well, sexy. Maybe you’re premenstrual, worried about work, coming down with a cold. Or maybe you’re just not in the mood. So what do you do when your partner nuzzles up and suggests an early night? He’s feeling horny as hell and you’re feeling as sexy as a kipper? Don’t resign yourself to going through the motions. If your body’s low on passion power, turn on your mind and watch the fuses blow.
Thinking about sex during the day is one way to get warmed up for what’s in store later.
Music, candles, wine and gorgeous underwear will help. If you can’t stop thinking about the problems of the day, even while you’re making love, it’s time to call up some sexy mental images. If you have a favorite fantasy, draw on it when you’re with your partner.
Don’t ever make the mistake of faking an orgasm or hurrying through the encounter by performing fellatio, thinking, to get it over as soon as possible.
Try to arouse your sexual desire. It’s energizing. Once the desire is fully aroused, your fatigue, tension or worry will ebb away.
If all of these won’t help, please get some professional help and a check up.

Dear Hillary,
Staying in Thailand for five months now, I wonder what kind of diseases we could catch. Or, is modern medicine so far be able to cure all kinds of plagues (besides Aids)? Lately I’ve heard so much about it, I am worried.
Kelly G.
Dear Kelly,
You are lucky to be in Thailand. It’s still one of the safer places. Because in other parts of the world, deadly, infectious diseases are on the increase.
Laurie Garrett warns in her book: The coming plague, that after 40 years of assuming that modern medicine could protect us from virtually anything, we find ourselves under the threat from killer infectious diseases like ebola, malaria and cholera. The cause? Everything from worldwide poverty and the misuse of modern drugs to cutting down rain forests and destroying plants that could provide new cures. Garrett believes the only answer to the menace of the microbe is for governments to realize that we live on one planet and that we must fight together against those viruses. Leading the fight should be mobile researchers - so called “disease cowboys”- who rush to places like Zaire (scene of one of the latest ebola outbreak) and Bolivia’s remote San Joaquin region (recently overrun by Bolivian haemorrhagic fever) to identify the virus, find out how it was transmitted, and contain its spread. The alternative, says Garrett, may be the extinction of the human race.