Dear Hillary,
I’m a businessman who frequents the bars after hours for drinks and conversation with other expats and bargirls since I can write and speak fluent Thai. Over the years, I got to know the mamasans, papasans, and many other bargirls and their tales with Farangs, this includes romance and scams that those bargirls play on their customers. And over the years I have met some of their Thai boyfriends and husbands, as well as their Farang customers, boyfriends, and husbands. Currently and in the past, I kept those bargirls secrets to myself, but now it’s starting to get to me. Many of these bargirls will lie and cheat to steal as much money from their Farang partners especially when the Farangs have to return to their home country. Many of those unsuspecting Farangs provide financial support of 3000 baht to 50,000 baht per month to provide for her family as well, so they don’t have to resort to prostitution while he is away. My problem is that I got to know and drank with many of their Farang guys who asked me to “keep an eye out” for their Thai ladies while they’re away. In the past and present, I always said, “I don’t know,” when I saw them again in the bars or when they emailed me. But now I feel guilty and uneasy about the whole thing. I actually feel pity for those men. Should I tell those unsuspecting Farangs the truth and lose those bargirls trust and confidence or continue the current situation as is, or just avoid the bars completely?
The spy?
Dear Spy?
Do not be the carrier of bad tidings. Keep in mind that no one EVER thanks you for shattering their illusions or romance. My advice is step back and ignore. Remember everyone including Thai bargirls has to make their own lives and their own mistakes and their own karma. Put the blinkers back on, or if you can’t then change bars frequently or avoid them, but I don’t believe you can.
