Dear Hillary,
I have a regular girlfriend in Pattaya who looks after me every time I go over your way, about every three months for a couple of weeks at least. She says she waits just for me, but I wonder about that as she does work in a bar. I send her some money and give her more when I’m over there. How can I make sure she doesn’t see somebody else behind my back?
Jack
Dear Jack,
What do you think gives you the right to start spying on some bar girl you have decided is your girlfriend? Because she is all yours because you “send her some money and give her more when I’m over there.” Don’t you understand that she has a job of being a bar girl, and that is to entertain the customers, just as she does for you. You may think of her as being in a “wife” situation, but we call it a “mia chow” (rented wife) agreement. You don’t own, or have any rights over this girl, so you are not entitled to think of her as your chattel. You are not married, no matter how many strands of white cotton you have around your wrist. You could, of course, employ a private detective to confirm your fears, spending much money on this, and for what? You are not ready to “settle down” and I doubt if she is either. Treat the relationship as a bit of friendly holiday fun, and leave it at that, Jack my Petal.
