Dear Hillary,
Every Thai woman I meet seems to be just the same – after a couple of weeks it is pleas for money for rent for the room she shares with others, or money for the upkeep of two kids being looked after by her mother while the husband has fled the scene. Best was one who was still seeing the boyfriend (the father of the two children) and who was also seeing number 1 and number 2 Mia Noi. You say to stay away from the bar girls, whose job it is to empty your (my) wallet, but your so-called “good” girls are just the same. Hand out for school fees, university fees, dental work, rent, and all the rest. The request comes a few seconds before the due date and leaves you with no time to find alternatives. I have asked the same question to other foreigners married to Thai women (or even not married, just living together) and they all say that Thai women are always on the lookout for a sucker. I have a ‘steady’ at present, but want to make sure I don’t end up taken to the cleaners. Your advice please, Hillary.
Gordy
Lordy Lordy it’s Gordy,
My Petal, you are in a turmoil aren’t you. Do you want me to give you foolproof plans that will show you whether this girl will fleece you or otherwise? Gordy, those foolproof plans do not exist. You can leave money on the bedside table for years, but one day she might just need some and it will be gone. If the amount is large enough, she will be gone too. My advice is always the same. Fix on a monthly sum of money that you are happy to do without and tell her that is her allowance. How she spends it is up to her – you don’t want (or need) to know. If she wants more, or needs more, then she can save up as everyone does. Make that a fixed rule and you will never be taken to your cleaners, but be aware that she may look for someone offering a bigger monthly allowance! Up to you, Petal.
