Dear Hillary,
You had a chap wondering if he should take the “big step” and let his casual GF move in with him. She has a shop he says so he has already worked out that she gets a double income if she arrives on the doorstep with toothbrush in hand. So what’s stopping him? Looks like a win-win situation to me.
Tom
Dear Tom,
Oh what wimpy people we are breeding these days! I think the guy is not ready for a live-in relationship, but she is the smart one and as you say, it all becomes a rent free double income for her. All he has to do now is to get an agreement signed so that she knows her income from the shop is hers, and his income from his work (or pension) is his. Then they decide how much he will give her for being a live-in lover.
This then becomes a simple financial transaction, which is what she wants, and he is afraid of. As I advised before, he is not ready for any form of commitment.
