Dear Hillary,
Is it always confusing when a chap is trying to take out a “proper” Thai lady, rather than one of the girls from the bar? I read in a Bangkok paper that young courting couples can go for five years without even kissing. Is this normal? I have been trying to build a relationship with a Thai lady (an accountant) but she is forever telling me not to rush, but just to take things slowly. Since I am retired, I probably do not have the time to wait around that long. What do you suggest, Hillary, to speed up the process somewhat?
Pedro
Dear Pedro (the swift?),
Congratulations, Petal. You have found the essential differences between Thai ladies and Thai (service) girls. While both can be charming and lovable, the behavior patterns in the initial stages of the relationship are very different. With the service girls, commencing the relationship is easy, and after a while (generally a few months to around a year) she will decide whether you are worthwhile continuing with as far as a long term relationship is concerned. There are often many broken hearts with this way of getting to know the girl of your dreams. With the Thai ladies, it is the reverse. During the initial phase, which can take years, she is deciding whether it is even worthwhile starting a relationship with you. There is less chance of a broken heart, but a lot more chance of frustration for the foreigner. Get a copy of Bangkok Angel, written by Mike Smith, who has been through these problems. A few years old now, but well worth the read.
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