Dear Hillary,
If I hadn’t been spending most of my holidays and money in Thailand for the last 20 years, I would think that Pattaya Mail made up these letters. But I know that these ignorant people actually exist, and there’s a lot of them in Pattaya. And of course Phuket, Samui and elsewhere.
I have “my own” girlfriend in Thailand, when I am there. I know what I need to know about her, after knowing her for nearly 4 years. I really like her. I trust her with everything because she tells me just about everything. She shows me mails and texts from farangs abroad, and ask me what it says. And sometimes she asks me to reply these people. I can speak and write ‘Thinglish’. Whatever will happen to me and my lovely Thai woman, she needs money. I could never pay as much as she needs, I know that. And she knows that. So on my last holiday in January, in Pattaya, I thought that the best I could do for her, was to let her work all she wanted. I said that I would still pay her every day, on the condition that I would wake up with her. We made a set of extra keys to our guesthouse. I must say that this arrangement worked out perfect for both of us. I like some time on my own. Oh, and she told me that I could take a girl ‘short time’ if I wanted to. I never did though. I am fine with my Thai woman. I have never sent money and she has never asked for it. She ‘use’ me to get information about farangs. I like to give her advice. Some of the worst people in Asia are actually from the West, in my opinion.
I will never understand farangs who go into a bar, meet a girl, and then want her out of the bar as quickly as possible and back home to her village, and pay for that (she will come back to the bar as soon as the farang has left for home, of course).
Me (47 y.o.) and my Thai woman (36 y.o.) get along because we both know the realities of life, I think. I respect my Thai woman, and any other bar girl/woman. I would do exactly the same, if I was a poor Thai woman, or just a woman. It beats factory work or construction work, in my book.
Peter
Dear Peter,
I had to shorten your letter just a little for space reasons, and I am glad that you are another farang happily in a relationship with a Thai bar girl. Your situation is a bit different from Lucky Farang as your is closer to a ménage a trois, rather than a monogamous one, but if it works for you, then just keep going Petal!
