Dear Hillary,
I used to be very friendly with a girl in a local café and often used to just pop in for a coffee and to say hello, as her English was not very good, though I thought I could probably teach her. About three months ago she disappeared and the new waitress could not tell me where she had gone. I bumped into her in the street the other day and I asked her where she had been. Her English was so much better, that I decided to ask her out for dinner. She told me she couldn’t go as she was working in a bar, but I could see her there. I was just so disappointed. How could a sweet young girl from a restaurant turn into yet another bar girl? I still like her a lot. Should I try to get her to leave?
Wally
Dear Wally,
In a word, No! There’s an old saying – You can take a girl out of a bar but you can’t take the bar out of the girl! If that’s what your sweet young thing wants to do, you have to accept it. She has her reasons for working there, and they are probably financial. You do not need to start a relationship based on financial need and your presumed ability to supply the cash to cover that need. Beware, young Wally. Beware!
