What do you do about wandering wives? It seems to me that Thai women are all
worried about the man playing up, but they are just as likely to be having a
little something on the side. How many times have you been told about some
chap’s Thai GF having a Thai BF on the side? I can think of lots. We have a
phrase ‘What’s sauce for the goose is good for the gander’, and I don’t think
the Thai women really understand this. Or am I wrong?
Why does anyone have a little fling? Forget about men and women, Thais or
foreigners, it is in human nature. Usually this happens when there is something
lacking in the partnership, but just as often it is just to add a little ‘spice’
to life, and Thai women do like their ‘spice’, don’t they!
I get the feeling from your email that you have suspicions
that your Thai wife (or GF) is wandering. I don’t believe there is much gained
by having her followed, but there is more to gain by looking at yourself and how
you contribute to the partnership, and I don’t mean financially. Too many
farangs seem to think that if they pay their GF money each month, that means
they have done everything necessary, and don’t need to do any more. If you are
looking for a maid to sleep with, then that’s what you’ll get, but if you are
looking for a life’s partner you must stop thinking about “wages”.
“Sauce for the goose is good for the gander”? Garlic and
pepper is nice, but even a Panang may suit.
The other evening my husband of 20 years called me a bitch with no provocation
from me at all, so I decided to teach him a lesson, and made him sleep in the
spare room that night. He just laughs and shrugs it off when I ask him about it.
This has now been going on for a few weeks. I am really thinking of leaving.
What is your opinion, Hillary?
Dear Extremely Annoyed,
Perhaps if you bark at him again you will get the answer.
After many, many great holidays in your beautiful country I have decided to come
and retire there. I think somewhere in the north might suit me as it is not so
hot as down the southern end. Could you advise me on the possibilities of
purchase of a suitable abode, and how do I get the requisite visas to stay there
with you? I always read your column and enjoy the advice given out so
Dear Sir Francis,
Don’t come the ducks and drakes with me Petal. Do you honestly think that
Hillary can represent the Thai Immigration office and give you visa advice? And
you certainly wouldn’t be staying with me, Sir Franky, no matter what kind of
visa you have, so you can get that out of your head for a start. Mind you, if
you’re arriving with a topped up credit card in your wallet, I can certainly
help you run it through a couple of ATM’s. Of course you can buy a suitable
abode, as you put it, but that is the province of the real estate agents, not
Agony Aunts. Give me a call after you’ve settled in and the champagne is on ice.
You have probably heard this hundreds of times and may be able to help me in
this problem I have. On a trip to Pattaya I fell in love with a most beautiful
girl from a bar and against all the advice given by “old hands” I gave her money
to set her up in a house, which had to be in her name as it could not be done in
mine. I felt we had the makings of a perfect match and she was so attentive to
me I could not believe my luck. I had to do everything quickly as I was only
here for two weeks. At the first opportunity to return for a quick trip I went
to surprise her and found out that she was living in my house with some Swedish
guy and had been for some time! Should I ask her to return the money? Or ask him
to return the money? I feel totally cheated and I think it will be some time
before I fall in love again, especially with a Thai girl.
Charlie the Chump
Dear Charlie the Chump,
You must really stop and take this opportunity to decide just who cheated who,
here. You were here for three weeks and bought some girl you did not really
know, a house? Is this reasonable behavior? Is this rational behavior? You threw
your money away, my Petal. She did not rob you - you robbed yourself. Next time,
think twice, or in your case, think two hundred times. Perhaps you might even
listen to the old hands too. Sorry, Charlie, but you had it coming.