(This is the continuation from “Uncle’s” request from last
week, wondering what he should do about his attraction to his Thai niece.)
Just as I thought, a fairly easy solution has been found.
After discussing the situation with my wife, although she hasn’t mentioned her
feeling on the matter, I think she is in agreement that the niece needs another
place to live. Didn’t mention whether or not she was in agreement with my
proposal, but I suspect not, and doubt she ever mentioned it to the niece. Upon
seeing the niece yesterday she removed some of her things and said she would see
us today, I hope to remove the rest of her belongings.
So now I don’t have to deal with my feelings for her, as out
of sight out of mind, and what she does with her life is totally up to her. I
don’t have to be witness to it.
Feel free to post, if you think it may help others who may
one day find themselves in a similar situation.
You just escaped there, didn’t you, my scheming little
Petal. And it was lucky for you, because if you look I have corrected your
‘neice’ into the proper ‘niece’. Do try and remember from now on, Uncle. And
also remember that the girls who work in the bars choose that lifestyle. None of
them are indentured apprentices, even though some will claim they just got off
the bus from Nakhon Nowhere.
I was told many years ago that you shouldn’t let your wife’s
family come to stay with you, even just for a few days, as it always ends up for
weeks or months. I thought I was lucky because it never happened to me.
Relatives might stay one or two nights, but that was it. Recently things have
changed a lot now with her brother and her cousin and her mother all staying in
the house with us. They all stay in the one room which I think is a bit
unhealthy, and they’ve been here for three months and there’s no sign of them
leaving. They are quiet and do help around the house and garden, but this wasn’t
what I really expected. I asked my wife about it but she just says it’s OK and
they’ll be going soon after they brother and cousin have got jobs and mother is
just having a holiday. Well I wish I could have three month holidays. What’s the
next move, Hillary? Enough’s enough, surely. I have a close family in the UK,
but they wouldn’t come and stay forever.
Horace the House Husband
Dear Horace the House Husband,
You are now starting to see a little of what Thai society
is all about, my Petal. Family reigns supreme, and it is usual for them all to
sleep in the same room. It’s not unhealthy. It is Thai. When you got married,
you joined a Thai family, much more than your wife joining your UK family. After
all, you married a Thai lady and chose to live in Thailand. You would have to
expect that Thai culture will be dominant. You can try voicing your reluctance
to have them there, but be prepared for difficulties. This is your wife’s
immediate family. You can always try to find them jobs - in a far away city.
Lots of luck!
I am an American expat currently based in Japan and let me
tell you that the bars here are really expensive, and the girls even more so!
Even more than in Vegas. I have now been toying with the idea that I should
throw my job in here, even though it is well paid, and move to Thailand and I
think Pattaya, as I enjoyed a short furlough there a couple of years ago. What I
want to do is open a go-go bar, with some of the ideas I have seen in Japan. I
need to know how do you go about hiring staff for a bar over there? Is there an
agency that handles this, as I want only top girls, as this will be a top
Dear Japan a-go-go,
I think the first step would be to write to the
Immigration Police in Pattaya and let them know of your intending business
venture, and they will help you with the currency exchange and paperwork and put
you in touch with the right person in the Labor Department in Chonburi. After
that, you should hire a reputable Private Investigator to find the best looking
ladies that are left in Pattaya, as most of them are already in Japan working as
a waitress, or similar position, and may not wish to return to the chrome pole
paradise of Pattaya. It would be such a shame to spend all that money on air
fares, just for nothing. What are you going to call your go-go bar, Petal?
Nippon or Nip Off a-go-go? Pattaya is waiting with bated breath. If there’s one
business that Pattaya is really short of, it’s a go-go bar! Rotsa ruck!